Friday, February 11, 2011

42/365 - What do men want 1 - Silence

So in the interest of fairness, I asked several men what they want. Interestingly, it's the same as us women. Of course, how we express those needs and how the are fulfilled are different. Anyway the first response was "silence". One gentleman stated that when he comes home from work and wants to vent about his day, he wished that women would listen instead of advise. HMMM, sounds familiar, doesn't it?

There were other responses pertaining to the gabbiness of women. (There was the obligatory "no nagging". the "give me a few minutes to rest when I come home before asking a million questions" response. ) But, generally is was wishing for more attentive listening.
The men I asked said things like paying attention to a conversation or tid-bit they mentioned and later surprising them with something, perhaps a gift or an action, that relates back to it in a positive manner. Or picking up on clues so that we understand what the man needs, not just wants.

Basically, it all comes down to respecting our partners, talking less, and listening more. Something both sexes could practice more.


  1. This is such a creative idea. I like the new direction it's taking and love the black and white.

  2. PS...can't believe you've both been at this for 42 days!!!! Fabulous stamina....can't wait to see all the directions you'll go in during the course of the year.

  3. Thanks, P. I'm starting to enjoy this theme more. Actually it's probably more of the conversations that it is generating.
    I can't believe its been 42 days already either! I had that thought a couple of days ago on day 40. can't wait to where it will take all of us.

  4. I'd like to tell the men that want silence where to go...If they want silence, then they can stay by themselves. I'm not a huge fan of men in general though...

  5. he he I felt the same way when he first said silence. But, after he explained it didn't sound QUITE as bad.